Watch, stand fast in the faith, be brave, be strong. Let all that you do be done with love. 1 Corinthians 16:13 & 14

Discussion: 

Living with an addict there is a tendency to live with “blinders” on.  Sometimes, this is motivated from our own reluctance of having to face the disappointment, especially when our loved one is on the road of recovery.  However, God calls us to WATCH and to keep our eyes open.  Because of the dynamics of husband-wife, parent-child, having a family member do the job of a Sponsor is not what I mean here.  We are not to force our child or spouse into admitting because this often leads to them shutting down or worse, but we know them so well and we can tell when there are slight changes in their personalities, mannerism and thinking that can reveal to us when they are in danger.  Encouraging our loved ones to be honest, praying over them, being faithful and intervening when it is necessary is all part of being "keepers" of our loved ones.  All of our motivation should be out of love.  Jesus had no problems calling out his disciples when they were in the wrong yet he loved them.  At the last supper he knew that Judas was to betray him, he knew that Peter would deny him, yet he didn’t banish them from his last supper or deny them the blood and body of Christ.  So we should also be honest with ourselves as well as your loved ones and ask when you suspect, check when you feel there is betrayal, pursue IN LOVE when you know there is something wrong.  If you love the way Jesus loves, stand in faith the way that you should and pray for vision He WILL reveal their suffer to you. 

Journal: 

When has God intervened in your interactions with your loved one to reveal their using?  How did he speak to you in those moments?

Breathe Prayer:

Lord help me to have your vision.  Show me what I need to see.

Meditation:

Continue to pray for vision.  He will continue to reveal to you if you ask.  Focus on your reaction and suppress the need to respond in anger, respond in LOVE!  Love them so much and remind them of it.  "I wont let you lie to me because I LOVE you that much!"   They suffer from feeling unloved HEAP love on them but do not turn a blind eye.